Gutfeel

Temporary Comfort

In a very real sense, we are the stories we tell ourselves. The stories we create will impact the way we experience the world. As we continue to outgrow our old lives, often through loss and tragedy, we need larger, deeper, more compassionate stories to deal with new and unfamiliar contexts. This is just such a time in history.

Throughout the world, countless thousands are suffering devastating losses of loved ones, homes, and jobs, while still more are struggling with ongoing fear, uncertainty, and loss of meaning. Our new life stories may be darker since the world changed forever on September 11, 2001. By including awareness of the more tragic aspects of life, however, our stories may be richer, fuller, more profound. After all, does not the stirring symphony include both the rumbling bass horns as well as the flutes? The tapestry that excites the eye is composed of both dark and bright threads to create its own unique pattern. By accepting and integrating all of our feelings--all of life with its glorious mountain peaks as well as its abysses--we become larger persons who are more capable of fully accepting ourselves and therefore eventually better able to help others.

When you can, begin to redefine the term “normal.” Instead of trying to “get back to normal” right away as we are exhorted to do, try exploring the ways in which the concept of normal has changed. You might also want to examine the ways in which you have changed. To attempt to go back to old ways that are no longer possible is to court disappointment and frustration. Let the “new normal” establish itself gradually, then accept the new standards as you can.

Be aware that even though you may attempt to get back into your old routine as quickly as possible, you might not be able to perform as well as before. You may have difficulties concentrating, you may be awkward or clumsy, or you may feel irritable and impatient. Give yourself plenty of time to readjust to the reconfigured world. Just because you function brilliantly one day is no guarantee you can maintain that high level day after day.

conjured by smirkface @ 4:25 AM